Become the person you would like to be around
A complete guide to make friends & build an incredible social life
Hi everyone;
After writing multiple guide on how to overcome your social anxiety, max out your charisma, etc.. Now’s the time to finally show you HOW to develop an incredible social life (unfair advantage)
We’ll cover everything from why exactly you NEED to develop an extraordinary social life, and get into multiple social circles, etc… to how exactly you can manage to do that
In short you’ll learn how to become a SOCIAL MAGNET
Why do you want to have an extraordinary social life? The importance social life:
I think this one is pretty obvious, at least if you’re not the type to fantasize about that lonely wolf narrative (coping mechanism) - Because truth is, whoever you are, whatever you’re doing - becoming even just slightly better with people can only be beneficial, and in literally every aspect of your life
Not exaggerating;
Understand - if you have a poor social life, you’re basically missing out on life in general. And I’m sure that deep down you’re already aware that…
Maybe it is you spend friday evenings at home wondering where it is you messed up
Maybe it is you just sit sometimes & wonder when’s the last time someone actually missed you
Maybe it is you sometimes wonder who would notice if you disappeared for a week?
Maybe it is you see people with not even half your talent/skills served much more more & much better opportunities
Maybe it is you sometimes simply feel alone..
Understand that we humans are simply “social animals”.
Means connecting with other humans beings is VITAL to our overall satisfaction & well being. We NEED (not just want) companionship & community to thrive in life - to the extent that the strength of our connections deeply impacts our mental health, overall happiness, and opportunities in life.
It’s just a fact.
Having even just a “decent” social life will do wonder for you - whether it is on an emotional level (easing anxiety, decreasing stress, boosting self-worth, etc..) but on a professional & financial level as well (better opportunities)
In short, here’s a little breakdown of what you’d be signing for by neglecting your social life:
Health: The absence of social life literally spikes your cortisol & anxiety - to extent that you overall lifestyle is simply not healthy (diet, phone addiction, boredom, etc.. )
Identity & self-worth: You’re basically missing that feeling of belonging. Boredom hits you like a brick . You start thinking of yourself as awkward or boring. Any goal you wanna advance towards starts to feel like “what’s the point anyway”
Carreer & opportunities: People with not even half your talent/skills have much better opportunities than you for ONE simple reason.. Social Skills
It’s NEVER too late - Everybody can make friends & build social skills.
Alright, alright, alright…
Listen; It doesn’t matter where you’re starting from..
Whether it is you’re socially anxious/awkward, whether it is you have literally no social life (0 friends), or whether it is your only interactions are w ur family/virtual friends, etc.. Every single one of you can still build an extraordinary social life regardless of where they are, at least if they actually want to
& that’s exactly what you’ll learn to do here:
How to build an amazing social life. What does it take to be surrounded with amazing people:
The irony of social skills: Uncover the truth.
Let’s face it;
If you’re reading this, it’s likely not the first time you try, and read advice on how to improve your social skills (all without much success)
In fact, many of you have found better results socializing with alcohol alone than every piece of advice they read on the internet
& it’s all for ONE simple reason..
When talking about social skills: “The skills aren’t about adding things on to your personality to come across a certain way” ; The skills are rather : “Letting go of any need to come across a certain way & instead unchaining your natural personality that’s being shackled & suppresed inside of you”
Understand - your natural charisma/social skills are revealed/unlocked (better way to think about it) by REMOVING things. Not adding things on.
And more specifically those barriers that are acting as “limiters” on your personality. (social anxiety, guilt, shame, fear of judgment, LACK OF SELF-ESTEEM, etc..) Making you always wanna be hyper-aware of your actions, language/words, and how you come across in general.
This might be the ultimate mindfuck for anyone trying to be “good w people”. His entire paradigm is “WHAT CAN I ADD ON?” When it should be “How much bullshit can I remove so I can LOVE me being myself naturally?”
You want absolute freedom (from genuinely giving zero fucks in social settings.) - no self-consciousness that makes your body feels stiff and your breathing feels tight because you’re trying too hard to look a certain way.
& the irony is that the way you want to come across is only accessible to you by genuinely not giving a fuck how you’re coming across - & instead just having fun
But to do that you NEED self-esteem (no way around it if you’re serious about improving your social skills)
Not convinced?
That’s exactly why people drink alcohol & magically pop up some crazy social skills, become more charismatic, hold out coversations effortlessly & even find themselves a sense of humor, etc.. Coz these things are already within them/you in the first place (at least to certain degree ofc) - they’re just buried under a layer of inhibition, anxiety, and self-consciousness
Like a part of your brain part of your brain keeps you in check (“don’t say that, you’ll sound dumb”, etc).
Under alcohol, that filter weakens — so you speak more freely, laugh more easily, and approach others without overthinking.